As of this moment, I will wake up tomorrow and be legally married in the state of Virginia. Tomorrow I will not be legally married in Virginia. The SCOTUS issued a stay in the 4th circuit marriage case delaying marriage equality in Virginia.
The state WE live in…
WE are not legally married according to the state of Virginia. I spend all day in DC where I am legally married while Lisa spends her day in Virginia where she is not legally married. WE can ride up the road to Maryland where we are considered legally married.
In OUR home…not legally married.
WE were married in a small ceremony in New York City last November. WE stood in line, filled out our application, and then waited what felt like forever (it was over an hour) to finally have the license in hand. On the day of our wedding WE then signed that license…WE have pictures to prove it.
WE now even have a signed, sealed, and delivered copy of our marriage license.
We’re legally married*.
I am sure there are many different views on marriage equality but the one that keeps coming up in my world is religion. My marriage does not need to be recognized by your church. It just doesn’t. Personally, I wouldn’t choose to be involved with a church that doesn’t accept me or recognize my marriage. I came to that conclusion a long time ago.
The church does not issue marriage licenses. The state does.
The rights and privileges of marriage are not granted by the church. This is also done by the state and federal government.
I chose this person to be my family. There aren’t many more intimate and important choices in life a person will make than to choose a mate.
Marriage and all of the rights associated are important to these Virginians especially now that we’ve started to grow our family.
* In nineteen states – CA, CT, DE, HI, IA, IL, ME, MD, MN, NH, NJ, NM, NY, OR, PA, RI, VT, and WA – plus Washington, DC