I woke up opened Facebook and burst into tears this morning. My wife held me while I cried and tried to come to grips with what I am feeling. I’m crying because we have a new President. They are not tears of joy or elation. They are tears of a broken heart, a battered soul and a head wringing with worry. (I’m not a crier so this is kind of a big deal).
I grew up thinking I was Republican. I wanted to be involved with the Republican party. I immersed myself in South Carolina’s political atmosphere. As I moved about the world my feelings on social issues changed but I could comfortably call myself a fiscal conservative. Then I met three attorneys who changed my heart and mind for good. They lived and conducted themselves professionally with such compassion and such pure hearts. I watched them tirelessly answer the call to protect the most vulnerable of our state. Working with people from every walk of life in our state with no hesitation. You see, I could no longer think only fiscally because there were lives hanging in the balance. Lives that have no voice of their own. Lives that time and time again get lost in the fray. When I came out, all of the sudden I became one of those lives. A person who suddenly had to fight for equality. I was a socially marginalized individual.
An election cycle that perpetrated worry, fear and panic, now has me waking on the day after the election filled with worry, fear and panic. Seems as if that platform was successful on all fronts. I respect that people want change, to buck the establishment, to find a better way for their families and their businesses. Those are ideals I can get behind. Those are things we all want out of this life. If that is why you voted for Trump, I get it. Some things aren’t working and maybe he has a better plan. I can’t see it…though.
I can’t see past…
- The people who can see that my family (LGBT community) is at risk but think that it’s OK, inconsequential or a great fucking idea,
- The people who can’t see that my family (LGBT community) is at risk and don’t care,
- The people who can see that women’s rights are at risk but think that it’s OK, inconsequential or a great fucking idea,
- The people who can’t see that women’s rights are at risk and don’t care.
- The people who can see that latinos are at risk but think that it’s OK, inconsequential or a great fucking idea,
- The people who can’t see that latinos are at risk and don’t care,
- The people who can see that muslims are at risk but think that it’s OK, inconsequential or a great fucking idea,
- The people who can’t see that muslims are at risk and don’t care,
- The person who commented on a photo saying to someone go back to Africa,
- The people who think everyone in a hijab is a terrorist,
- A Vice President who believes in conversion therapy for gays,
- A President who spoke of Roe v. Wade as if it offers carte blanche abortion,
- The Trump supporter in my news feed who posted a picture of a black man’s face superimposed on a white woman’s body that I’m pretty sure is racist even though I have no idea what it supposed to be,
- The people who started yelling, “Lock her up,” during election night at the Trump rally,
- The people who still think my marriage shouldn’t be legal,
- The people who want to build a wall to keep out those escaping countries to be in the land of the free,
- The people who are just plain and outwardly scared of the color brown,
- The people who are scared of brown and don’t have the balls to admit it,
- The people who think the political parties are Christian or heathens (or more accurately heaven bound or hell bound),
- A President-elect who disrespected a sitting President over and over by challenging his citizenship,
- A President-elect who speaks so callously of women, minorities, immigrants and the LGBT community,
- The people who called Hillary Clinton, Killary and thought it was just in good ol’ fashion political mudslinging, and
- The people who think they put God back in control of our country. You put a man in control of this country. Please remember that. (Quite frankly, the only person who actually personified what that means to me was Tim Kaine so I guess it’s subjective.)
I can’t see past those people. Those people do not represent an angry, disenfranchised and frustrated electorate who want change. They represent xenophobia, racism and general deplorable behavior. Yea, I used the word deplorable. It’s appropriate here. I am worried, I am scared…but I don’t have time to be past this moment. I have a wife, a daughter and the rest of the world to show who I am. It’s not someone who mocks or belittles or even the person who wallows in defeat. I have to be the wife, mom and person I need to be to show the people above what true compassion and love look like.
The beacon of hope is those who sent messages of love this morning and last night. Thank you.