Where ever you are…how ever you want…when ever you want. It’s really up to you.
Yes, it can be scary.
Yes, the words are hard to find sometimes.
Yes, it feels too hard.
Sometimes it will go well.
Sometimes you will cry….tears of joy, relief, and even pain.
Some people will cry with you.
Some people will hug you.
Some one will be shocked. BUT
Some one will say, “I knew.”
You may lose a friend.
You may lose a family member.
You will feel free.
You will sleep better at night.
You will move forward.
You will know so much love.
It was hard, scary and a very long process for me. BUT I DO NOT REGRET IT! The truth is I still come out all of the time. It is the nature of things still. People assume straight. Sometimes when I meet a new adult especially in a professional setting or another parent, I get to come out. I usually get to come out when I am asked about my daughter’s father. It is often in polite conversation or in reaction to my daughter’s very light blond hair in contrast to my very dark hair. I always feels slightly embarrassed on behalf of the asker as I say, “she has two moms.”
Once you’re out to the people who matter most, the other times will just become a thing you say.
So come out. We are all here waiting for you with open arms.