And the Winner Is!!!

The winner of the 16×20 Personalized Canvas from Fabness.com is Julie R.!


Thank you so much to all who entered!

Don’t worry if you didn’t win! You can still get an amazing personalized canvas from Fabness.com at a great price!

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Use the code SNGS-AFM-70WS at checkout and receive 70% off these sizes: 12×18, 16×24, 20×30 plus free ground shipping.

For a first giveaway, I don’t think it went too shabby.  Hopefully, I can host another soon!

Thankful – Giveaway!

Happy Thanksgiving to all of you. As I sit here watching the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade (which made me tear up as soon as it came on TV), I’m thinking about how thankful I am. I have a beautiful wife and child snoozing away and a warm home with big furry cozy sleeping dogs. In the quiet I am taking this moment to check in with the internets. The stars all aligned last night and I was able to prep all of my Thanksgiving dishes. I only need to pop them in the oven later!

Since starting this blog, I have made so many far away friends and been given so much support from the blogging community. So when my friends over at Fabness.com reached out about doing a giveaway, I thought this was the perfect way to say, Thank you! So Fabness.com is helping me give away a 16×20 Personalized Canvas to one of my followers! I know you are all shutterbugs because I see so many cute pictures of your little ones so I thought this was perfect!

I first heard about Fabness.com last year when I was looking for an inexpensive way to put one of our wedding photos on canvas. This is now one my favorite pieces we have hanging in our home.

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All you have to do is enter and you might win! I am delving into something new and trying a giveaway/sweepstakes (legalese and all that jazz). I’ve set this up with Rafflecopter so I fee like it’s pretty legit.

But don’t worry if you don’t win…You can still get some great deals with Fabness.com – You can receive 70% off of All Canvas and Free Economy Shipping with the code Black Friday!! Just click here!

Here is the Rafflecopter link to enter since it won’t embed!  Enter away folks!

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You can also go to our Facebook Page where there is a Giveaway tab!

I also would like to add that I am an affiliate for Fabness.com and Dinkledoo so when you click on my links and purchase something, I get a little something too. If you would like to become an affiliate, you can as well. Just click here for details.

My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbows

…Then may we speak with Mr. Insert Real Last Name…

Well, he’s my dad and doesn’t live here but you can speak with my wife. (Although, my guess is since she didn’t call you but I did, she doesn’t want to talk to you.)

Wait, there was a time when a whole family used one phone wasn’t there? Mind Blown!

We have a small chuckle once in a while when some unsuspecting person puts together that we’re married. It’s cute. It’s funny. It’s a changing, evolving world we live in and not everyone has fabulous married lesbian friends like us. Most people are super professional – you see the recognition on their face and then they quickly get back on track. Some people even get really excited which is extremely cute and gives everyone the giggles. I can’t even think of one negative reaction or I’d have written about it.

So this week I’ve been making calls to handle a little house maintenance issue. All three vendors I spoke to this week assumed I had a husband. Now I’m not saying they should assume I’m straight or gay…it’s a phone call. It wasn’t that they were just trying to get a sense of the homeowners though. Two of them actually wanted to speak with my husband. Their assumption that someone other than myself was more capable of making the decisions was off-putting. Off-putting enough that I barely enjoyed their blushed tones when I said I had a wife instead and then the inevitable fumbling over spelling her last name which is only four five letters. It’s probably hard to think when you’ve just realized you were being sexist and made a huge assumption about someone.

While I am certainly not mad or offended about the assumption that I have a husband, it was a realization that some things haven’t changed. Some people still think men are the decision makers when it comes to home repair or in a relationship in general…Which means some people think there aren’t single women owning homes and kicking ass at it but there are (I even know some!). It means that some people don’t think about the wider definition of the word family. It means businesses aren’t having conversations about how to phrase things to be less patriarchal.

In some instances it may be necessary to know if more than one person owns a home or lives in a home so just tweaking the questions a bit would go a long way…

Will you be the only contact for this project?

Would you like to add another contact for this project?

Is there a spouse or partner I could list?

It’s really not that hard to keep your foot out of your mouth if you try just a little bit.

 Anyone else out there experience this kind of thing? Tell me about it.

The Versatile Blogger Award

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This award was given to me at exactly the right time by Bumbi’s Mom. I had been telling myself that November would be different. I would post more in November because things were slowing down, plans were being made and life was becoming more focused. However, nine days in to the month and I still had not posted a thing. Then last night I get a lovely tweet from her with this blogger award. So thank you Bumbi’s Mom for getting me out of my slump and making me write the things that I need to write.  Please visit Bumbi’s Mom’s blog where you can read about her life with her partner raising their daughter. She is such a huge supporter of all of us bloggers, super nice and a very talented writer!

The award – Write 7 facts about yourself, and nominate 15 pope who you think deserve this award. Plus you plug that little icon in to your post. It’s like a Girl Scout badge…Post it with honor! (I wasn’t a Girl Scout but I know there are patches involved).

  • I really like the Facts of Life. You’d think Jo would be my favorite but it was Natalie. Also, Tootie is a funny name. As I kid I thought tootie was what you called a vagina…so her name was vagina in my mind.
  • I always wanted my parents to send me to boarding school probably because of the Facts of Life but they wouldn’t. Ugh. Now that I have a daughter, I know why.
  • My two year wedding anniversary was last week. I wanted to write a post about it but I didn’t. I am so slack.
  • Dry erase markers make me happy. I update the dry erase board at my desk every day.
  • I was a US Senate page and US House intern. One was a magical time, the other was a horrible summer job.
  • I still get nervous when I think about the first date I went on with my wife. Even though we had met and I had internet stalked her for like two months, it still gave me intense butterflies.
  • I like cereal a lot. I could eat it at every meal. Gripping revelation, I know!

And here are the nominations – In no particular order…A mix of new and old favorites…I’ve followed along as most of these strong women through loss and into motherhood. They have been so honest and open. Keep blogging because your words matter! For you new gals, I’m excited to follow your adventures!

  1. My Perfect Breakdown 
  2. Speck of Awesome
  3. Jessa Dreamer
  4. Baby Making Adventures
  5. Project Tiny Human 
  6. Awaiting Autumn
  7. FoxHillHouse
  8. A Day in the Life
  9. Me and My Crazy Womb
  10. Chicks Hatching
  11. The Chronicles of a Non Belly Mama
  12. Baby Bailey Mama Drama
  13. The Other Mom of Four
  14. The Gayby Project: Making the Next Generation of Fabulous
  15. Reciprocal Love

For you nominated folk, don’t feel obligated to post. I just wanted to make sure you know I am reading along and cheering for you all.

Month 8 – She has Teeth

I skipped over month 7 because October was completely crazy…

Our photo shoot went a little like this…

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The Number 7 tastes amazing!

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7 Months was delicious….

So here we are 8 months in to this amazing journey as moms. Our little girl is growing and changing so much. She can stand on her own…DSC_0022

She has not taken her first steps on her own but she is so close. She loves using her VTech Sit-to-Stand Walker to cruise up and down the hallway. She stands up over and over again. It’s a good thing baby butts have so much cushioning!

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She can throw a ball and other objects. And she laughs just to laugh. I like to think it is because she hears laughter so often. She even has a fake laugh. It’s so funny that it usually ends in actual laughter.

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We are so in love with this child. Even though you hear it time after time, it’s amazing how one little person can come in to your world and fit so perfectly. The love just grows and grows. It is an easy, all consuming love.

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Of course, we have tantrums and sleepless nights but who cares. The memory of those moments slips away easily. The only evidence is the bags under our eyes and the frequent trips to Starbucks (and I’m not complaining about that!). To us, she’s just perfect. Most tear filled nights these days are because of those little teeth poking through. She has two now!

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She can play by herself but hates when mommies and grammy leave the room sometimes.

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She gives the best baby kisses of all time…all open mouthed and drool. The other night even with a sore mouth and a melt down happening, she looked up and then gave me a kiss.

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She may appear to be bald in some photos but she has quite the head of blond hair growing in. Little tufts of hair stick over her ears which remind me of little old men. It’s adorable.

Also, because I skipped a Halloween post, here is a little photo shoot we did in her giraffe costume.

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October – The Months Month

Is it just me or is October flying by?!? It’s like one big pumpkin flavored blur. October is my favorite month by far of all the months. It’s the perfect month. Perfect weather (except that flood situation in South Carolina this month was pretty horrid). Plaid. Hot lattes pumpkin or not. Halloween. Long sleeves. Changing leaves. Apple cider. Falling acorns (Ouch!). Pumpkins. So many things to love. October feels like love so maybe that is why October was designated to bring awareness and advocacy to so many important and close to my heart issues.

Did you know this month was….

Breast Cancer Awareness Month – I don’t think there is one of us out here in the world who has not been touched by breast cancer or some other form of cancer. Because it’s not about how much pink we can wear.

Down Syndrome Awareness Month – Check out Down With Jax and also check out Peachy’s Posse a page for a family I know who runs in honor of their son every year with their posse!

LGBT History Month – There is much on this topic so how about I celebrate my favorite LGBT icon, Edie Windsor! Who is your favorite LGBT icon?

National Bullying Prevention Month – Check out It Gets Better Project and information on Glaad’s Spirit Day. The amount of bullying resources and stories is immeasurable!

I also wrote a blog about bullying on #SpiritDay

National Domestic Violence Awareness Month – Check out the Domestic Violence Awareness Project

National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month – Check out Wave of Light by My Perfect Breakdown

National Sensory Processing Disorder Awareness Month – Celebrating Sensory Awareness Month by Bumbi’s Mom

National Sudden Infant Death Syndrome Awareness Month – Check out Remembering the Brightest Star in the Sky – Matilda Mae by MummaScribbles

Please take a minute to visit a link to learn a little about each of these topics through blog pieces and websites. This just a small slice of causes that call October their own! Please feel free to share any blog posts on these topics!

A big thank you to Bumbi’s Mom for helping me out with this one!

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Bullying and Me – #SpiritDay

Most of us have been the victim of a bully and if we’re honest we’ve been the bully too. As a woman, a lesbian and a mom bullying is something I think about more now than I ever did as kid. I think about the times could have and should have taken a stand but did not.

I remember the kids who were bullied…daily…

For their hair…weight…height…glasses…clothes.

Who were called gay like it was a bad thing.

Those kids were my friends in early elementary school before we moved to the 4th grade playground.

Before cliques and social status became our overlords.

They were my friends before we all knew who had and who had not.

They were my friends before we knew who was hot and who was not.

I remember the kid who made fun of my weight even though I wasn’t fat.

I remember the kid who threw paper at me during lunch for no reason. He was just a jerk.

I remember that same kid called me pig and made piggy noises at me. Such an ass.

I realize that the little girl who was made fun of for her old lady clothes actually wore homemade clothes. She would be so in right now.

I realize the little boy who looked like he had leprosy actually had cigarette burns on his arms.

I realize I was lucky.

Bullying in all of its forms is harmful and dangerous. There are now even more ways to bully a person than there were just a few short years ago. As parents we have the responsibility to teach our kids that different isn’t bad or wrong. People and friends come in all sorts of packages.

All beautiful.

All worthy.

All with something to offer.

Question & Answer: Where to start? Vegan pregnancy? Etc.

In the middle of the night I awoke to find a brilliant comment from someone with a few great questions. I thought I would answer them in a post instead of burying them in a comment/reply chain. These are some of the questions we had to ask at the outset of our baby making journey. We didn’t know where to start so we blindly went in to the process and navigated it as best we could. We were pretty successful with some great medical care and luck so I am happy to share what we learned along the way.

Hi! I’m thinking about adding an addition to my tiny family and don’t know where to start. I’d like to get checked out by a doctor to make sure I can house a little baby for 9 months. Where would I need to go, the Obgyn or rather a common doctor or maybe both? I’m vegan like you and would like to stay vegan during my pregnancy if possible. Did you do that as well? Sorry for all the questions but I really can’t find answers. Thanks?

Question 1: Where to Start?

The very first thing I would do is figure out if your insurance covers fertility issues. Some insurance covers testing but doesn’t cover fertility treatment (i.e. IUI, IVF). If you are in a situation where you know you will need the assistance of a fertility doctor (i.e. same-sex couple, single mama, old fashioned way not working, advanced age), that is where I would start. Then I would find a fertility center near your home or work because you will be there frequently during testing and monitoring (mostly blood tests and ultrasounds). You will need to visit your gyno for your yearly check-up if you have not already. The fertility center will need those records.

The benefits of going to a fertility doctor include not wasting time and money guessing when you’re ovulating and also they will be able to tell you if you’re healthy. They obviously can not guarantee that you’ll get pregnant the first go round but they can take the guess work out of a lot! I would at least do a consultation so you can see what it is all about. You’ll get to meet with the doctor, nurses and financial team who can answer all of your questions.

The truth is that making a baby when you can not do it the old fashioned way, is that, it is expensive. Our fertility center had a great financial team that helped with figuring out insurance and how to pay. Sperm is expensive unless you have a supply handy (unintentional pun). Also, sperm banks just won’t let you take sperm home like a “do it yourself” kit. Almost all of the banks need a note from a doctor to release sperm and most doctors won’t give you permission to do it at home. Why? Because it’s risky and the odds are so low of it working at home.

Our fertility center had videos, checklists, etc. to help make sure you are ready for your first appointment. We listened to everything our doctor said without much question. Maybe naively since we had no idea what we were doing but we did end up pregnant the first go round. I give them a lot of credit for that but know that getting pregnant even under the best circumstances are very low odds so luck was a huge part too!

If you’re doing things the old fashioned way, you can ignore the above unless you’ve been trying for a while and think there is cause for concern. Talking to your doctor is always a good call. 

ALSO ALSO ALSO – I want to make sure everyone knows that fertility clinics are not just for those who are experiencing infertility. They are for same-sex couples and single mamas and whoever else needs some extra assistance having a baby!

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Questions 2: Vegan Pregnancy?

My wife was vegan her entire pregnancy. She treated her body like a vegan baby making shrine every day even through gut wrenching morning sickness. She had no pregnancy/health issues. She ate well. She stayed healthy the entire time. No blood pressure issues, no swelling, no gestational diabetes, etc. People will ask you a million questions about being vegan and pregnant especially where nutrients and protein are concerned. Mostly because they don’t understand and just can not compute. All well informed vegans know protein is not an issue. You have to be smart about your diet and be confident. I would suggest giving Alicia Silverstone’s book Kind Mama a read. Even if you don’t subscribe to everything she says, it is a great vegan nutritional guide. There is a lot of information on the internet about having a healthy pregnancy. We found that it was easy to adapt those things to the vegan lifestyle as well. My wife would adapt foods (i.e.walnuts for brain development) into her meals that helped with each stage of development of our growing baby. She ate oatmeal every morning for breakfast while she was pregnant (and still does for breastfeeding benefits).

Lisa’s Morning Oatmeal:

  • 1/2 cup McCann’s Irish Oatmeal (3 minute kind)
  • 1 cup filtered water
  • 1-2 TBS flax meal
  • 1-2 TBS raw pumpkin seeds
  • 1-2 TBS organic raisins
  • 1 TBS pure maple syrup
  • Dash of ground cinnamon or pumpkin spice
  • Splash or two of non-dairy milk
  1. Boil water on stove top.
  2. Add water to Oatmeal in a bowl or to-go cup (16 oz at least).
  3. Add flax meal, pumpkin seeds, raisins and maple syrup and mix.
  4. Add desired amount of cinnamon or pumpkin spice to taste.
  5. Add a splash of non-dairy milk to make it a little more creamy and also alter oatmeal consistency. All those add-ins will make the oatmeal a little thick so adding a splash of milk will help!

I hope I answered your questions and you find this helpful. If this only leads to more questions, please ask. I am happy to answer all of your questions and be a sounding board!

Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional nor do I claim to be. All information is opinion but based life experience.  

Fall is Heeeeerrrrrreeeee!

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When I feel that first nip in the air signaling that fall is near I experience uber euphoria. I just want to skip, twirl, sing with woodland creatures and carve fat pumpkins as I feel the crispness in the air. The temperature always drops right around my birthday like a gift from mother nature. I have felt this way since I was a child. I love fall clothes, apple cider, college football and the crunch of leaves. I like when the weather is just perfect enough to wear a long sleeved t-shirt and a pair of shorts. The summers in South Carolina were miserable…the kind of hot where your parents can not send you outside because it would be negligence so fall was a welcome friend.

I am sure some of you thought fall had arrived with the release of the PSL at Starbucks but the first day of fall was yesterday (Sept. 23rd)!  I am not judging you…I started celebrating fall the first day I saw a Pumpking in the liquor store! I take no issue with the pumpkinization of fall. Pumpkin on, my friends!

Side Note – My birthday hasn’t passed yet so you still have time to shop. 

Along with fall comes fall activities! Corn mazes, festivals, haunted houses, apple picking, county fairs, pumpkin patches…etc. I always want to do it all but there are only so many Saturdays and Sundays. So here is our must do list for this fall!

Cox Farms’s Fall Festival – We attended their preview last weekend to kick off our fall activity schedule. There is a corn maze, slides in every theme possible, caramel apples, apple cider, a new forest walk, live music, games, pumpkins and food. It’s great for the whole family! At night you can go to Fields of Fear, which is their corn maze but scarier. Lisa and I went with friends two years ago…We had a blast chunking pumpkins at targets, sliding down giant slides and freaking out in the corn maze.

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LA was more impressed with her Nuby teether than the corn maze or the imagination forest but we had a great time! Also, everyone gets their own mini pumpkin when you leave!

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Poplar Spring Animal Sanctuary’s Open House – Every fall the awesome people and animals at Poplar Spring located in Poolesville, MD open their gates for a fundraiser! There are goats, pigs, lambs, cows, horses, turkeys, etc….all rescued animals now living a happy life at a wonderful place! You get to visit with the animals, bid on auction items, and eat tasty vegan food all in a idyllic setting. We are so excited to start taking LA to this yearly event. She loves our dogs at home so I am hoping she gets just as excited about these wonderful animals! 

DC VegFest – Since Lisa and I started attending this annual event a few short years ago it has grown and relocated twice! VegFest is a vegan food dream come true. Vendors come from all over the country with samples of their delicious food. Plus local eateries have booths and/or their food trucks. Plus there is art, clothing, accessories and organizations to support as well! It is a most wonderful gathering of compassionate people. Also, there are speakers on a myriad of topics and cooking demonstrations from some well known vegans. Jane Velez-Mitchell will be opening up the day this year! She is a great speaker and has a genuine passion for compassion. One thing you can count on is the long and continuous line for Vegan Treats. It’s worth it and amazing! Plus you can do all your people watching while you wait!

Maryland Renaissance Festival – I have not been to this festival or any other renaissance festival but it just sounds like fun! I don’t know what to expect…wenches? grog? chainmail? dungeons? swords? dragons? I just realized I have no clue what medieval stuff is really. Still, I think it sounds like a blast.

6 Month Baby Update


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Just look at that face…I don’t even think she was mad…She can impressively make faces that I can not for some reason. Happy six months to our funny, smiley, busy, smart, little cutie pie! This post is a few weeks late but I didn’t want to let her half birthday pass without an update.

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It is hard to believe that she has been ours for only 6 months. I feel as if she has always been with us. She has filled our world with so much more love than I ever knew was possible.

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Even though I knew in my heart that she was a girl, I couldn’t quite picture her. I am sure my imagination would not have done her justice anyway.

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At LA’s sixth month appointment, she surprised her doctor with her mobility, stability and strength then she peed on the table. LA just likes to keep it real. She weighed in at around 14.8 lbs. and is 26 inches. She’s a small wonder! Her shots made her cry but only for about 5 seconds then she was ready for a nap in the car.

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Not quite the happiest baby on the block!

LA started crawling and pulling up/assisted standing during her sixth month. She is on the go all the time now. It’s a good thing baby butts are so plush because that poor booty is constantly making contact with the floor. The poor dogs get some much needed exercise running from her pincers. She gets so excited when they pay her any attention at all. Luckily she has not discovered their water bowl yet.

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LA LOVES:

  • Pulling up on the couch, the stool, the TV stand, her sit-to-stand walker, her high-chair…I mean pretty much all the things.
  • Standing in her crib…maybe even having a little chew of the railing.
  • Knocking her books off of the bookcase.
  • Teething toys (even though no teeth have made it to the surface)
  • Hanging out in her Ergo while shopping, cleaning, walking…etc.
  • Playing with her toys especially her keyboard and sit-to-stand walker because they make all the noise.
  • Giving moms and grammy kisses.
  • Eating homemade mashed/pureed peas, broccoli, green beans, pears, cereal, sweet potatoes, carrots, avocado, bananas…
  • Dance parties with moms.
  • Reading and tasting a good book.
  • Trying to ride the dogs.
  • Bath time!

LA LOATHES:

  • Diaper changes – This is new…it’s like rasslin’ a bear!
  • Not a huge fan of when mommies or grammy leave the room sometimes.
  • Bed time…Nap time…all the times when sleep is required.
  • Diaper changes…did I mention diaper changes are a challenge?